Thanks, Kay, I completely understand your post, and agree with it.

Yeah, the timing is not good, we both mentioned that. Neither of us can help it, it's life. Mine could probably be put on hold for awhile.... nothing's changing, nothing's moving. Hers can't be. I have not consulted a second T.... and don't know that I would. I know you haven't read all the replies yet, but I said somewhere that I would venture a guess that I wouldn't be looking for another one.

Thanks for your reassurance....because you're right, think I feel needy. Really, the pot (my life) has been stirred for the first time in my 4 decades of life....and I know since I removed the top, I've needed some extra support. She is a great T. I'm sure it's possible, but I can't see myself clicking with someone else like I have with her. She "got" me from the beginning. So I do really want to try to "weather this storm." But it's sure not easy...