I find it very difficult when I feel like my therapist just isn't getting what I'm saying. But at least when that happens she acknowledges how hard it must feel for me.

At the beginning I used tell her how inarticulate I felt when she didn't get me. And she was like "you're inarticulate? Maybe I'm just dense! Maybe you just explained it perfectly and my limitations don't allow me to fully grasp what you've said yet. I have faith that eventually I'll get what you're saying but the fact that I haven't yet isnt your fault."

I wish for you brown owl that your T will ultimately figure out how to one down you like that. I hope they can let go of the need to be clever and in control and acknowledge that it's frustrating for both of you when you're not understanding each other. And that they'll be with you in your frustration. And take all the time it takes to get there with you --whenever that may be.