(((Steiner of Thule))))

In response to your question: "I still want to kill myself?" it seems to me you are questioning why you feel this way.

So below is merely my interpretation of things from a personal perspective, from one who has experienced major depressive episodes on the past. Here's my take on this thought process.

For me, personally, it can be difficult to maintain friendships sometimes especially when I am having episodes. When I am severely depressed I isolate. A lot. I don't contact. And I guess in some respects indirectly I ignore them. Oh I have had times when I've just switched off my phone for a week. And haven't bothered to reply to messages. And when I am depressed I guess I am not too much fun to be around. It is just that I think that it is difficult if someone who has never experienced true depression to interpret out indirect yet projected behaviour that is totally not meant for them. Well this can be disappointing really. I mean one side of the argument would be if they are our true friends wouldn't they just stick by our side through thick and thin? And if they don't were they really our friend in the first place? But on the flip side remember that they haven't "walked through our shoes" they do not know "what true depression FEELS like" and makes us do. It can be hard to relate, I would think. I don't think you were intentionally "abandoned". Oh I do certainly know that it feels this way indeed. For sure. This is a valid feeling based on the circumstances. But perhaps it was a case of our friends being unsure of how to help us? I am not sure on this one either?

Now let me discuss this statement with you:

"I have an idea of how I want to kill myself and it just seems so right. "

You have labelled this as an IDEA as opposed to a plan.

As your friend, I want to let you know, I am concerned about this and I am concerned about you.

Do I understand this statement: "It seems to relieving though the idea of it. " Sure. I understand. I mean who wants to live a life with all of these horrendous thoughts of friends leaving, feeling like no one is there, abandoned, worthless. It's like relief I guess. From the feelings that we feel.

"Nothing matters anymore and just die." Well the part that you are referring to that probably wouldn't matter is how hurt you are inside. You are in a lot of pain.

"It gets intrusive sometimes and I will start to feel a tearing up feeling in my eyes." It is a very uncomfortable feeling when we feel this inside and the more we think about this the more upset it makes us feel.

"Intense and strong. It's painful yet I want it." It's like bitter sweet symphony. You don't feel right now like this is the life you want to live and yet are torn by the idea that you want to die. It's awful feeling this.

"Thoughts bombard me. Negative and intrusive." Yes, this is indicative of your depressive phase. They would be negative. They would bombard you. And of course it would make complete sense to me that they occur more regularly when you are lying down because you are left with the opportunity to think about these things without external distraction at night like the sound of the tv, passing traffic etc.

"I am a joke. They are laughing at me." Yes, I understand what you are saying. Our self esteem takes a massive dive when we are depressed. We think things about ourselves that are not necessarily true. But we believe them to be the honest truth because we are so depressed.

"Why do you try." = a reflection of you wanting to "give up". Sort of starts seeming like the "easy" way out doesn't it? I mean it's just so hard right now isn't it? Why should you endure this pain? Why should you endure this suffering? Why have people left you? What have you done to deserve this? Well, these are the negative thoughts swirling through your mind during a depressive phase and boy sure it all feels so real at the moment, I understand.

"I wonder why I do try." = you try because it's WORTH trying.

1. You TRY hang in there and get through this.

2. You try because you are currently depressed.

3. You try because you are experiencing negative thought processes that feel very real.

4. You try because you are not in the right frame of mind right now.

5. You try because I care about you.

6. You try because your depressive phase can and will pass.

7. You try because you ARE capable of trying even though you feel exhausted.

8. You try because the "end" is not the solution.

9. You try because even though you don't want to think about it there ARE people in the real world who do love you and do care about you and WILL be affected if you are gone.

10. You try because you don't want to make a rash decision.

11. You try because if you went ahead with this decision you can't undo this decision.

12. You try because with help you can begin to settle your mood.

13. You try because there are medical professionals who can help you in real life in order to help stabilise your mood.

14. You try because with the right therapy and treatment you can and will begin to feel better.

15. You try because you are 22 and you have a life ahead of you with years to live, people to meet, experiences to enjoy.

16. You try because these intrusive thoughts will not get the better of you.

17. You try because I know that you are better than this.

18. You try because although you feel horrible right now you are not horrible you think this because you are depressed.

19. You try because you are not ugly you think this way because you are depressed.

20. You try because although you think everything is hopeless right now there is hope.

21. You try because this depressive phase will not last forever.

22. You try because you are reaching out for support her right now on Psychcentral and I am here listening to you.

23. You try because you belong here and you are a member of our community.

24. You try because you know that you are supported here.

25. You try because you know that we've got your back.

26. You try because you are not the only person to have felt this and have worked your way through this.

You try because even Doc John cares about YOU - look what he has for you to help you and he doesn't even know you but he is here to help all of us:

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Here for you.

I understand your thought processes only to well.

And as one who has been through depressive episodes, I can assure you this too shall pass.

Please try.

Give it a go.

I believe in you (((Steiner of Thule))).