Sunrise, I can relate to the momma bear and her cubs, lol...

Like sister said, it sounds like a good idea to leave messages...I do that too....my son is 14 and when he was younger his t shared 'therapy stuff' with me but as he got older she began sharing less.

I don't get the part where you can't tell t about what's going on for your daughter on the home front....though I def. get the part where a child's t would not be able to share with child's parents about what goes on in session and what the child talks about....the only thing I could think of is that your daughter's t would feel she is betraying your daughter by getting info from you behind your daughter's back....

So I'm back to the idea of leaving her a phone message. In the message you could say you understand the two of you should not be talking without your daughter's consent and you respect that; however, you felt she should be apprised of things, therefore you are leaving this message....