If I might throw something into this conversation.

Don't strive to be an alpha male. They're insecure jerks who posture and pose and move from conquest to conquest as if they are competing with someone. The beta males constantly move to overthrow them and become an alpha. Like the old wolf, the alpha thinks he's in charge until a stronger beta removes him and on and on.

Strive to be a gamma. Gamma males are the genuine "nice guy". They don't work to get into the hierarchy, they don't attempt to compete or conquer and they support those around them.

When the alpha is all used up and thrown away and the betas are busy squabbling, it's the gamma that is in a happy relationship with a satisfying job and no worries about his "fit" in their stupid games.

You can play the game and lose or you can not play the game and win. It should be a simple choice.