Dear T: Last night, another real-life example of the fact that for me, therapy works. I'm seeing them all over the freaking place these days!! So yeah last night hubby was in this huge funk over his fantasy baseball league. He doesn't get along with one of the guys on the league, although they've all been friends since like junior high or earlier. Anyway this other guys is making a HUGE thing out of a mistake my h made last season when he was their league commissioner and this other guy won't let it go, which pisses off my h, to the point where he can NOT let it go either, and he's driving himself in this downward spiral that is painful to watch, over it. Last night, I started out doing my old-habit-me thing of tryign to take on his crap and started crying and feeling lousy myself until I saw what I was doing (thank you, mindfulness!), and I said to myself NO and I TOLD him, this is your issue, not mine, and I can't take it on myself, because I see what I'm doing, I try to take it on myself, but it doesn't take it away from you, all it does is get me upset, which makes you worry about me, which makes it all worse. So I am not taking this on myself anymore. I support you, I love you, but I'm not going to take this on myself, I need to let you deal with it." And he surprised me by saying thank you. Imagine that!!

Again I say, t, that this work you have taught me so well to do, is THE best gift that I could ever give to myself.

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!