I agree Cris80pitt.

Unfortunately my Mom will likely use my words to gain sympathy from her associates so she can play the poor victim. She has never said sorry to anyone for her actions. She has never admitted being wrong. When confronted she will say, "I'm sorry you feel that way." She is also a pathological liar. Most everything she says to me has hidden messages to manipulate me. She also assumes that everybody is manipulative the same way. She was sexually abused at a young age' At one point in her teens, she did not talk for a year. She made a serious suicide attempt a year or so before she had her first child (me). She and her brother were diagnosed with bi-polar and neither of them ever sought help. She married my Father (a classic example of an adult child of an alchoholic). She never resolves her hurts and always brings past offenses up. As I stated above, she shunned her entire family for ten years because her 2nd husband was "offended" that he was not immediately welcomed into the family as enthusiastically as he would have liked. That being said: Strangers think she is the life of the party. She is all about self-preservation and keeping up appearances. She is ignorant and in complete denial.
She is not capable of having a healthy relationship with anybody. She operates on a very superficial level.
I am open for a reconciliation, but at this point she will have to pursue it very earnestly.