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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Is there anything you do enjoy or like about yourself? Even if it stems from the value of you that others tell you, that's a starting point - it sounds like perhaps nobody reinforced the lovely things about you when you were tiny, so (for now) you need others to show you that about yourself.
So as a first step, maybe you could think on a few of the positive things people tell you about why they love you? Writing them down, so you can see it in bold black and white, might help.
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My T has had me make lists before to try to help me remember positives. One list was all the ways I know my T cares about me because I constantly would doubt that she does. Another list was all the things I do give myself credit for because my T constantly was telling me I didn't give myself credit for the positive things I do.
Maybe this list might actually help too.
Is it weird that I can list my good qualities, but it's like they don't count? Example: I'm smart, but I can't seem to put it to use for myself or anyone else. I'm caring, but people still leave me. I'm a good listener, but people often take advantage of that and don't usually listen to me.
But when someone else tells me these things, it becomes fact. There is no flip side debating. I know though, while it feels good to hear such things from other people, I can only internalize it for a little while before I go back to trying to prove it wrong.
But I will try this new list out. The other lists did really help me. Maybe it's because, like you said, it's in black and white. It's not me trying to pull these things from my mind when I'm struggling which tends to taint all the good things with negativity.
Thank you
