I am Bipolar , my husband isnt , We thought at one point the marriage was over, due to financial reasons we had no choice but to stay together until we could get our house in order sell it and move out spilt the money and divorce, until then we decided to just be kind to each other. We did. I was in Therapy and working hard , we did decide to do couples therapy. Him and I had tons of resentment towards eachother for all kinds of reason , was kind of a shock to lay it all out on the table , I didnt think he gave a damn anymore and didn't believe I had Bipolar nor even read up on it, I though he was just being mean etc, he felt I was faking things ( his first wife played the illness card to just get her way) and lots of other totally untrue issues.

Anyway . Our marriage survived , hard hard work on both of us to save our marriage.. marriage is like a garden it needs tending , daily......whether Bipolar or MI of any kind is involved or not.

Sometimes everyone need to just take a huge step back and breath.

I hope if it's possible you can both work on your marriage, Best to try everything you can .. If you don't , well then all the "What if I ... What is she .. What if we both... " All the What ifs will haunt you.

Good luck Welcome to PC