To me selfishness is putting your needs and feelings ahead of the needs and feelings of others. So when you die someone has to pay for your funeral. Selfish. People that care about you will blame themselves. Selfish. Someone will be scarred for life by finding you. Selfish. If you set it up so a stranger finds you someone still has to ID you and live with that memory. Selfish.

Now ask me if I think being selfish is a bad thing I think being selfish is a needed trait otherwise we'd never do anything for ourselves. It's why I believe it's one of the most selfish things a person can do but I don't think it's wrong.