I agree, that most of the advice was helpful.

However there is this (from Cakelady): "Angelwings to be honest I do think there is something wrong with you but not lupus..."

And this (also from Cakelady): "Sorry Angelwings but I think you are just plain crazy. Are you related to AshAsh? maybe a cousin?"

And this (same person): "Hell we do seem to attract the wack-a-dollies."

Cakelady also writes you a note that asserts a few things, isn't so bad, but then at the end she writes, "P.S. I still think you're crazy."

Which, IMO, is bullying.

It kinda escalates a little bit from there between two users.

I know when people call me crazy, I get really, really angry and hurt.

However, what happened was you initially ignored the person (Diane) who showed up to give you helpful, actually knowledgable advice and who was being empathetic, and engaged with the *****es who got defensive about your initial post in the first place. That was your mistake. Always ignore the ones who get like that.

Then you said this, in a response to Diane: "And when I get the Lupus diagnosis I am going to come back and laugh at all the people that basically called me crazy. Besides you of course Diane."

Why would you do that? Lupus is horrendous! Why would you want to be right about having it and rub it in their faces that you were diagnosed with it? I can see how that could offend people with the disease. It's absolutely awful.

Forums aren't battlegrounds. You're there to seek information and identify with people. Do people sometimes piss you off and say things that you don't agree with? Sure. Can you not help but say something in response sometimes? Sure. But don't let defensiveness turn into your primary goal when your primary goal was originally to seek answers for something way more serious. Then no one will take you seriously.