ok so i will answer both your questions together my therapist knows she shuts down she said to me straight out " i don't know how to deal with you when you act this way, tell me what you want so that i can give it to you, "

problem is i don't know what i want ......emotionally

so when i analyze my anger (intellectually) with my T she totally gets why i would be angry and why i react the way i do with other people however whenever i bring it into therapy (emotionally) she really shuts down.

i guess what i want from her is to tell me what to do with this anger when it surfaces and how to respond appropriately when the situation come up again that made me angry in the first place.

but emotionally i dont know what to do shouldnt she know that???