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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Both people need to be on board and responsible for there place/part in the relationship..
You need to try and get your BP under control, yeah its hell and seems impossible at times but you just have to keep trying , improve coping skills.
He should see a Therapist to help him understand how to help you and keep himself healthy. He needs to learn you can be upset and it have nothing to do with BP.
The threats and back and forth isn't good for either of you. Resentment can build up and ruin everything .
Couples therapy would help you both learn how to fight fair.... All couples MI or not need to learn how to fight fair.
Good Luck  |
I've told him he needs to see a counselor many times. He refuses. He has never taken ownership of our problems on me. Everything has always been my fault. We have been together 2 years, and EVERY single argument/fight has been instigated by HIM. NOT ONCE have I EVER gotten mad at him first, or started a fight. NOT ONCE. We just got into another fight just now, and of course, he once again blamed me, and the bipolar. I don't see this relationship working out for the long term. He can't own his part in the problems, he deMANDED that I see a therapist, yet is not willing to do so himself. He keeps asking (and did so again just 2 minutes ago) "Hows that house hunting going?" I only work part time, and each check only covers (barely) my car payment, and my phone bill. That's it! He's unemployed and his MOM pays his bills for him!! I don't have that luxury!!!! I told him, "trust me, as soon as I can get the money to get all the deposits, and rent together, I'm the F out of here!" UUUGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
