Guilloche just said everything I was thinking in a much more articulate manner than I could have done. So ditto that!
My T's are constantly harping at me. About "self care". You have to take care of you. That's not being selfish, no matter how your mom wants to twist it. I have an overbearing, demanding, and controlling mother. It took hard work (therapy) but I managed to tell her "no" once ( shaking and nervous as h***). It's been much easier since!
You have the strength and you have us.

Guilloche, sorry you're having a rough weekend. Hope the ice cream is helping.