Hi Sirensong, this is a good place to vent. Of course you miss your mother. For all of her faults and shortcomings, she was your mother, and she was special. There is nobody like mom. My mother passed away five years ago and I still miss her to this day.

I wonder if it is harder when there are unresolved issues and anger or discontent at her short-comings and problems, which you had to deal with as a child and young adult. Parents are supposed to take care of the children, not the other way around. The exception to this is when the parents are elderly and in poor health.

I can't believe your husband would tell you that you are better off without your mom. But sometimes it is hard for other people to understand.

My heart goes out to you.