Thanks all.
and thanks for those questions guilloche. It helped me clarify for myself a bit: I do want to be there for my mom and be generally supportive of her, but I just can't do it for this. It just sucks because I empathize a lot. This is not something she wants to have to do, let alone by herself. And the reason her ex is not here to support her is because I don't allow him in the house. BUT I can't do this for her. I know she won't hear what I have to say, but I will tell her that I do very much care for her and support her, but I can't go to court with her... I know it sucks to hear, because I would want support during a really stressful time. I just can't do this. I'm already stressing about so much else in my life, I can't add this to it also. And I know if I don't end up in t Tuesday, I will find a way to talk myself into t hating me and me being a horrid person that everyone runs from. I'll do my best to talk myself out of that mindset, but it will be eating at me all week...
I think I quadruple any guilt my mom may place on me. It's a bad habit...
thanks again. I just have to remember that is ok to be self-full at times.