Let me lay this on the line. Yeah, I'm bipolar. I am also care giving for my 78 year old and legally blind father. I am double whammied with a miserable life. I want to find me a female mate before I'm too old, but he's not going to allow one at "his" home. I understand it's his place, but am I supposed to be deprived of a life to help him. He gets sad/snappy when I talk about moving. See he sleeps in the living room and has for years. I asked him to use his bedroom so the living room could be inviting just like most living rooms. He asks if I'm trying to make him move out.

Any folks here ever been in this situation with an older parent? Seriously, I am bipolar. This situation stresses me a lot and has for a while. The worst part, is I've been unable to work due to bp, so moving is not an option.

My father is a dic@he%d and wants me to live like I'm still a teenager. I may be ill, but I still deserve to be able to have some happiness, peace, entertainment, and love. I can't have it here watching after him. He was pretty much a mean, verbally abusive, hateful, control freak when I was young, and I hated him. All I have ever wanted was to get away from. I've been away several times with girlfriends, but remember I'm bipolar, so they always end up dissolved after 2-3 years just like my employment, and I wind up back with someone who made me miserable and he is miserable himself.

In fact, he smoked a cigar, and he hasn't smoked in 10 years. I know it's because I mentioned moving. But damn, if I wanted to invite a girlfriend over, there's no where for her to sit because he won't through his mail away because he lays it all over the couch (his bed) and his love seat, and he has a fit I want to. He has a fit if I want to move something to make room because he's a half hoarder.

Seriously, does he want me to move? He says he needs someone around. He gets me to read stuff, fix his pc, and a lot of other chores. BUT, I'M NOTHING MORE THAN A F'ING SLAVE. I GET FOOD AND THAT'S IT. SO I HAVE TO BE SECLUDED WITH NO LIFE TO TAKE CARE OF HIS ***. I'M ABOUT.TO TELL HIM JUST HOW I FEEL.

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.