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Hi All,
My relationship is complex which I can explain later if necessary but suffice it that a commitment from both is agreed.
I feel I am in a fuel and fire relationship in which my partner says I am jealous and possessive and hence her actions.
All the years she is frequently befriending other men. She refers to them as "friends" and claims too not have any physical sexual relationships with them. However, she did admit many years ago to a once off physical sexual encounter. Many of the "friends" entail very explicit sexual telephonic conversations and/or messages, wherein she describes her sexual intentions. Other "friends" she shares very personal matters and chats regularly with them (at times late at night). A most recent friend is a previous boyfriend from her teenage years.
I have subsequently become a very jealous and possessive person in this relationship and she says I see things that aren't there because of my jealousy.
Through all of this she always promises to not do it again and just repeats the process of befriending men and then sometimes taking it too far. At times it has been other married men she befriends and claims their wives are fine with the "friendship".
She feels that she has every right to make friends with other men and says I have no right to dislike it. She feels she is doing no wrong and that I am over reacting and completely responsible for everything
I have many times tried to end the relationship and then she becomes aggressive and convinces me to forgive and try again.
I am in turmoil as I have become a person (a monster) I do not want to be, but at the same time I feel our affections should be toward each other and not to others.
Could you advise?
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