I see you have had to deal with emotional abuse yourself...so it's hard not to repeat this cycle. I have had to deal with emotional abuse all of my life. I also have bipolar disorder which makes it hard for me to control my anger.

I don't know if it is possible for you to exit the room when you feel angry and avoid the conversation all together. Have you visited this forum??

Relationships & Communication - Forums at Psych Central

This forum is not just for couples and married people. Browse the posts and see if anything catches your eye. I wish you the best.