Thanks for your response. It's also true that they need to keep up the boundaries, especially with someone like me. He was saying that sometimes he can loosen them (boundaries) to lighten up the session but if he's not careful he can cause more harm than good.

I was listening to the last appointment today at work when I was feeling really stressed. I always get something that I missed the first time. Today I realized that he wants me to bring up the SI so that I am the one bringing it out and "making it real" with my words. I think that way he can remain detached too.