I tend to really follow what Cheri has to say. She has brought up the ideas that come up to me. Particularly that your husband, her father, is telling YOU what YOU should say to the T. Perhaps you may feel that you might handle things better than him so you would rather say things? Otherwise, I say he can make his own contact as they are the things that he is concerned about...particullarly if you would do it differently.

I do not know what to say about the communication modality and I hope that your daughter will allow you to talk if even setting up certain parimeters. I wonder if the T initially asked you to share information as at the juncture she did not know your daughter. In time, there is bound to be trust built up so that the walls go up a bit. Might your daughter be aware of more than you realise? She may even be discussing her own options or the possibilities in therapy right now.

I am glad that you are speaking I believe of communicating with the therapist more on your side than on her side. I do believe that if you and the T communicate much that the trust between the T and your daughter might be compromised. She needs to know that she can say WHATEVER she wishes to to the therapist and know it stays in that room. I believe that you understand that. Yes?