As far as when I was dating I always told after the second date IF there was going to be a third. I figured no point wasting time on someone that won't accept ALL of me. But I'm pretty open about it anyway. I mean it's never going to go away so might as well embrace it.

And if I may ask why doesn't it matter now? My parents are both in their 60's and I push them to date all the time. My mom is bipolar(undiagnosed and unmedicated) and it pains me to say I know for a fact my mom's kinky(she's told me stuff while manic that would straighten your curlies) and I always tell her just be upfront and be yourself; if they don't run away screaming they are a keeper.