Hey Randall,

I can relate somewhat. I've never given it a title, but I haven't talked with my dad in over 10 years. We were once very close. Losing that closeness hurt a lot. I'm not angry at him (I think), and according to my sis, he's not angry at me. So why don't we talk? I guess there's alot of reasons really, but I get sad that he's on in years and one day it will be too late. So much time has gone by though....... There a side to him I love to no end, and another side I just wish would move out of his head.
I think it started with wanting to put some time apart in our relationship for the purpose of starting over someday. Now it's so natural not to include him, I guess I've forgotten to pick a someday to call.
Here's the advice I need to follow too. Don't let it go too long. Your sis must love you, and you need to feel that connection, to have a place that leads back to where you've come from if it's not abusive. My sis and I don't always get along, but sometimes she says "When we're old and gray..." as if she feels that there may be a time when we only have each other to lean on. At least it makes me feel that way.

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius