I can relate to domestic violence... married at 19, to a man that was older than myself... 12 years of marriage, no one guessed that I was being abused. I hid my bruises with clothing.. he never gave me bruises on my face though he frequently back handed slapped me..broke my ear drum several times - the force of air by a slap on an ear will do it.. Violence crosses all boundaries of economics too...Rape by a husband, also appears to not count - even when a visit to to get stiches is involved...

so my point is ... you have to get smart,,,, when you decide to leave... have a plan,,, do NOT trust him no matter what..find a safe house, one where he would never guess you are at,,, or your local woman's shelter... Men that batter do not change.. they promise, they will offer to do anything but they do not change...they can be charming and violent in a split second..
do not put yourself in harms way.... it is about thinking smart and not with your heart..