I agree with the posters. Once an abuser, always an abuser. Change is so easy to promise.

I've had many patients who lived through years of it and finally got out before they were killed. Then there are the guys like Scott Peterson.........who could have been more charming/good=looking, etc. than that guy? They come in every shape, size and socio-economic background.....

It really scares me to hear someone say "I'm keeping quiet now, so as to not trigger him"......quiet triggers also. You don't always have to open your mouth to get it slapped shut.