I'm having a very difficult time right now wondering if I am too close to my therapist. He wanted to know what "too close" meant to me. That is where I'm stuck and cannot find words. I tell him it feels dangerous and I can't seem to define that. I feel so strongly connected to him right now and that scares the wits out of me. I don't know what "safe" is and he feels very safe right now and I just don't know what to make of it. He is very professional but has stretched many boundaries and we have constant professional contact. I know he cares tremendously for me; that took years to allow myself to actually feel and I think he may feel love for me too; on a very human level. There is some serious paternal transference taking place that we do talk about. I brought up my loving feelings for him.....sweating every second, then, BAM...the defenses go up. He is so accepting an open; not rattled at all. I just need to get over this confusing hurdle. I know he feels frustration when I close down and he tries every which way to get through. Any thoughts on how to relax the defense? How does one stop thinking too much and just start feeling and let it flow??