Personally, I'd much rather have a therapist who felt something. I mean, I wouldn't want the extreme of one who is sobbing hysterically because I talk about something upsetting or looks horrified if I talk about something disturbing. But I want a T who is human, who has feelings, and who genuinely cares about their patients. Maybe a detached T works better for some people--but not for me. My T has told me that she doesn't leave her work at the office, that she continues to think about her patients when she goes home, trying to figure out the best way to help them. And is sometimes emotionally affected by them. I think this is what makes her a good therapist.

Now, say, a heart surgeon? I would want them to be more detached. But for someone dealing with my emotions, I want someone who feels.