Have you thought of finding a therapist to help you work through the trauma of your marriage and to help you discover the answer to your what now question?


If not I would strongly suggest it.


My story is a bit different, I only realized how scarred I was when my current bf and I started dating. Only then did I realize my ex bf had actually traumatized me.


Therapy has helped me untangle and clean up the debris of my past relationship, and I can only thank God I didn't marry him, even though he begged me to so many times. I could've ended up dead.


Anyway, this is not about me, its about you, and I just want you to know that it takes time, sometimes it takes a whole lot of time.


The nicest thing I did for myself after we split up was to reacquaint myself with me.


I lost so much during that relationship, friends, jobs, etc, that I didn't recognize myself. So I made a point of finding me. I started off by listening to music I like, instead of music he preferred.


Maybe that could be a starting point for you too, get reacquainted with yourself...