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Originally Posted by Shadix
That's just not how it works. I am attracted to whoever I am attracted to and I can't help it. Btw the girl at the gym is 18-19 I am pretty sure. She actually looks like she could be 16, but based on a conversation I heard I know she's in college. I am attracted to college aged girls. That is just how it is. Trust me when I say that the only reservation I have about getting involved with a girl that young is based on how she and others would judge me. If this stigma did not exist in our society, I would not hesitate to date an 18-19 year old. I honestly see NOTHING immoral about it whatsoever.
But I'll tell you what IS immoral. Women who spent their younger years enjoying the attention and company of all kinds of young attractive guys telling guys like me that WE shouldn't be getting involved with younger women despite the fact that we DID NOT have those same experiences they had when we were younger. Now THAT'S despicable.
Honestly I'm just venting. I am angry. I hate that people insist on making me feel like I am some sort of freak for being who I am. Especially when it is THEY who did not allow me those social opportunities when I was younger. By promoting these ideas, society instills a feeling of shame in men who approach younger women. This hinders our ability to approach young women with confidence. And not to mention the fact that these young women are also being socialized to look at us as creeps, so even if we could approach them confidently, we would probably get nowhere unless they happen to be attracted to our looks. Honestly I kinda hope one of those intolerant bigots would post a reply right now so I could demolish them. But of course they always avoid discussions where their prejudice will be discussed rationally.
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So, the one part of your post "But I'll tell you what IS immoral. Women who spent their younger years enjoying the attention and company of all kinds of young attractive guys telling guys like me that WE shouldn't be getting involved with younger women despite the fact that we DID NOT have those same experiences they had when we were younger. Now THAT'S despicable." is wrong and confusing.
You seem to be saying that women, when they were young, dated young guys. but that YOU weren't one of those guys and were told not to date those young girls. I think you've mixed something up in that.
Don't call others despicable because of your lack of experience. Random chance and your own decisions are what dictates your lack of experience - not anyone else.
I've only had a handful of relationships. Most quite short. Two long distance. Only one was when I was 18, none before that. When I was 20, yes, I felt inadequate. But at the same time, I wouldn't blame anyone even if I did have my negative perceptions (namely that I believed I was hideous, annoying, and pathetic) - I knew those were my perceptions, and that the reason why I wasn't in a relationship had more to do with random chance and my own inhibitions.
Again - you're the only person stopping yourself from having a relationship.
You are not a mind-control device, and you're not a telepath. You can't tell what everyone is thinking about you, even if they were to turn you down.