That's what my T said today in my individual session (I am also seeing him for couples but not this week). He said he is here with me now before the divorce, and will be here during the divorce and after too. He is not going anywhere. Why does he say stuff that makes me want to hug him? I guess he knows how good it must make me feel. He has such power sometimes to take me when I walk through his door feeling hopeless and dejected and send me on my way feeling warm and loved and strong and happy.

We had a good session, and I told him some stuff that he is doing in couples therapy that is not working for me at all. And we discussed that so he would understand. And he said how healthy it was that we could discuss differences like this and resolve them. I also shared with him that my husband and I had never ever had a fight before (we've been married 20 years, so yeah, we're dysfunctional), so the explosion that happened in T's office at our last couples session was practically intolerable for both me and my husband, and I had wanted to leave. And he said, but you felt safe to be angry here with your husband? And I said yes, it was safe to do that here. We would never do that at home. I sensed that it made him feel good to know he has created that safe space for me here.

Anyway, I feel much more empowered now to continue with couples therapy. I feel ready to keep trying, like I have more courage. I'm not sure how T works his magic, but if I find out, I will bottle it and make a fortune selling it on Ebay.