I've been there many times, as I do have an alter and there is often confusion about how I really feel or should feel. What has worked best is to follow the strongest feeling Not the logic but the feeling. Then go back to the person who riled me and say something or other. Maybe not too hard, as I don't need a guilt trip. But just telling the person gently that I question what he/she said to me helps both my logical self and the inner child. If I can't tell the person, or am too afraid too, I will work up some anger, beat on a phone book, and cuss, until it gets out of my system.