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Originally Posted by Restin
I've been there many times, as I do have an alter and there is often confusion about how I really feel or should feel. What has worked best is to follow the strongest feeling Not the logic but the feeling. Then go back to the person who riled me and say something or other. Maybe not too hard, as I don't need a guilt trip. But just telling the person gently that I question what he/she said to me helps both my logical self and the inner child. If I can't tell the person, or am too afraid too, I will work up some anger, beat on a phone book, and cuss, until it gets out of my system.
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So much of my system is based on logic. I think that is how we all got here. We had to survive so we logically did the only thing we could do to survive make others to take on what was too much. It is interesting that you use reference logic because that is what happened in this situation. I was spoken to in a mean manor but at the time I didn't feel anything. In my head I heard "hey who are you talking to like that" but I ignored it and left telling the person they owed me an apology next time we talk. It wasn't until much later that I started to think of how mean this person was. And how uncalled for the behavior was. I started thinking "shouldn't I have been more angry, shouldn't I have felt anger at the uncalled for meanness. But these thoughts were prompted by "logic". I could not fit my reaction at the time, into what I was thinking was a logical reaction to what was said. Or maybe I just didn't switch when the person was being mean to me. Maybe I would have had to switch in order to feel anger. So not expecting such an onslaught of meaness I didn't switch at the time but later when we go home and started to talk about, some got angry and than I felt the anger. So I wouldn't have felt it at the time if I didn't switch. But felt it later while we were disusing what happened. Weird. Why wouldn't I have switched? I was in a hurry but that doesn't usually get in the way. I did feel a little foggy when I left. I am not sure what happened.