Moma only stepped aside when faced with losing the man she loved. Momma was told he could not deal with the person she was. The strength and cold anger was just too much as Moma went over board. However, I realize now that gradually a weeker depressed woman took her place and she was new and scared to death confused and probably very young. a group of people took advantage and wreck myy relationship. By the time another alter showed up our life was devastated and we had lost the man we loved anyhow. The woman who had control next and another new alter or someone buried from long ago was very capable got me back into my home and found a way to get us healthier. She had control for almost 4 and 1/2 years. So she was integrating my wardrobe, and making herself well and home. Then my friend died. he left a young widown and 2 younger childred one 12 on 10. She had a choice, access my past and use info I hadn't used in a long time OR allow my friends family to suffer alone and unprepared. That's when jake came out. Earlier tonight i could feel jake slipping away he has no idea what to do with female relationship issues and wanted to run. But somehow We kept him here and he is aggravated that we did. Not in a very good mood due to the relationship issue and wondering just whose butt he should kick. Sigh. But life needs to be dealt with and with the extremes of some of my alters. jake is best.