Our money isn't joined. We have separate accounts. I just had happened to leave my card in her car the night before the transaction. Just doesn't make sense to me because she's lavish when it comes to me. I do turn these gifts down. She loves to go out and eat all the time, I like to stay inside and cook (cheaper and more food). So she's always spending 30-50$ on dinner for 2 plates when 30-50 can make 10 plates!

Her ex husband made the money while she was in college, but now she makes more than him lol. So yeah I can kind of get the sense of 'freeness'.