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Originally Posted by coolibrarian
Have you ever told your fiance that it is not helpful to you, when someone tries to "fix" your problems, that what you need is someone to listen and support you, with love? If you have already said this, it might be worth it to say it again.
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Yep. I've told him multiple times, my T has told him, Pdoc, my mom, and even his T has now told him. This is partially why he is therapy. We've been together for 9 years and have endured a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. We are learning to cope with ourselves and each other. He has never been in therapy before and has only seen his T twice. So I can't expect changes over night. But he is trying to get better. He is learning to listen and respect what I say when it comes to my needs.