I tend to be very independent - so much so - at the cost of relationships.

I agree with fayerody...Another fine line on how to handle this. Do you at all feel comfortable talking to someone about what is happening...ultimately I think it needs to be reported to the proper people. Just take one step at a time, unless there is more violation going on then you wrote - if so it would be that time.

All that you describe is inappropriate for boys to be doing...