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Originally Posted by MGbetaShinra
I hope that this finds you all well, but the only reason I'm here is in seeking of an answer to finding internal peace. last week, my mind formulated a very intrusive thought of breaking up with my girlfriend. There is nothing wrong between us, I couldn't be any happier with her. She means a lot
to me. This feeling is well reciprocated with her as well. However, ever since that thought, my mind has been at war with my heart in trying to put up self defense mechanisms that would prevent me from experiencing the same pain that I had felt in the previous relationship, childhood attachment insecurities, and the fear of love and attachment itself. this would includes doubts that I honestly don't have. I can only gather that it's because I care so much for her that these thoughts have bothered me. I come in search of potential solutions to finding peace within myself, as I saw that this was beginning to bother her and I simply can't have that. so if anyone out there is able to put out words of advice, I would be happy to hear it. I'm ready to overcome
this self-imposed mental burden.
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Hey there! It's hard that your old relationships always end up punishing your new love. It's like she is innocent would never hurt you like the past did.I get it my ex husband tormented me, he got in my head and I had a mental breakdown, he alienated me from everyone I know he was just aweful and now I have a new boyfriend that loves me a lot and treats me real good, we have never gotten I to a fight, for the first time in my life I finally feel happiness I my heart, but I get real scared he is going to cheat on me or that he has hidden secrets, and he doesn't deserve that cuzip he is not my past he does not have the negative defected flaws my past has he is my present, don't push your girlfriend away, you could lose her all together, just communicate with her that you are having these feelings and you need to release those emotions to her 1st will respect you and love you even more. Just remember she is not your ex she is not going to hurt you the way your ex did. Just talk to her and tell her what's in your heart it will show growth in your relationship and you 2 will only be stronger and solid. Trust me on this one. Well hit me up anytime have a good one and good luck to u..Sara