I am only asking because this condition has really caused great stress and unhappiness.
I find myself overanalyzing every conversation or social interaction with another person. Disclaimer- I do not suffer from social anxiety. I know this because I am extroverted. In fact, I am really attention seeking.
I think I am a perfectionist because I think of social interaction as a game that needs to be won. The way that I judge myself is through other people's responses. If they continue the conversation, then I must have done well and made them think well of me. The weird thing is, when faced with a social interaction, ie "how is Professor Smith?" I can imagine so many different ways that I can respond to this question. Unlike others, I do not know what my conversation style is. I cope with this through picking a mantra. It is kinda weird, but when faced with so many choices, I need a guiding principle for me to reach any kind of consistency in my response. For example, I may decide that today my principle is that "If people can clearly see that you are willing to make friends, they will like you more!" So my response to that question would be "Professor Smith is actually a pretty good teacher (big smile). Who is your english professor?" But in a few days, I would think, wait, this high level of ethusiasm is very unnatural! Shouldn't I want my friends to like me for me? So my principle would become "I should not care what people say, love me or hate me." So my response under this principle would be "He is ok" In a few days I think, wait, people are not inviting me to anything, nobody is texting me first, perhaps I should be more aggressive? But not super aggressive. So my mantra would be "A lady is someone people want to be around. I should strive to be a lady… and so on… This cycle is very pointless and exhuasting. I want to stop but then I would be faced with so many choices as to how to respond to the question "how is Professor Smith?"…
This cannot be normal! Please help me identify what kind of mental illness I have. I think it is OCD but I do not know.
Also how do normal people respond to the question? Do you kind of predict how the other person will respond to your response? And pick the answer that illict your desired response from the asker? That is not something I have tried before, but I kind of want to now. I hope I have not started another cycle……

TL DR: I do not know how to act socially in a consistent way when I am facing so many possible ways to act socially (ethusiastic, pensive, talkative, lady like, etc)