I agree with Sundance. It's important that your physical and emotional boundaries are respected as you heal. Your other relationship left scars that are going to take time to heal from. Your bf needs to understand that your ex-gf hurt you, and that what he is asking of you now is hurting you all over again by triggering similar feelings. Do you feel comfortable having a heart-to-heart with your bf about what those feelings are, where they come from, and why they are being triggered by what he wants from you? I hope you can work things out so that you can feel safe

((((Lexi)))) <--only if you want hugs

Angela