You are kind of talking out of both sides of your mouth. Your wife is not the problem. Then: Your wife is the problem, so much so that you might ought to think about ending the marriage. Which is it?

You want to get credit for so deeply valuing your wife and family that they are your only reason for living . . . . but you are, simultaneously whining about how your wife damages you. If I can pick up on this contradictory message, I'm sure your wife who lives with you is hearing this too.

Decide what you believe and own your feelings. Maybe she is a bad wife to you. I don't know. You live with her. How is she damaging you?

If you go around with the message that: "I'm devoted to my loving wife who is my reason for living and I can't stand her because she is not supportive of me . . . " you're not going to be considered very sincere. It's one or the other. You can't have it both ways. You're kind of not really making sense.

It is possible to say, "I love my wife, but I think our marriage has problems." But you've got to be more clear about that.