I know that's not true at all. He's been very honest with me about his feelings and how he treats me and what he is/isn't ready for. He's been honest about what his hang ups are and what he expects out of the relationship. He's treated me with great respect. I don't really think it's fair to say that and I 100% trust that the reasons he gave me are the real ones. His main one is finances because he wants to give me a stable marriage and the wedding of my dreams, which he can't right now because he just bought us a house

A man trying to keep his options open does not buy me a house or a cat or spend money to travel to visit my son and get him presents and try to make things work with my mother who has some serious issues or brings me to all of his family dinners or has his mom calling me so we can go shopping and stuff together and get to know each other and doesn't introduce my son to his family and agree to officially adopt my son if he moves back in with us.

He isn't where he wants to be in life right now and he wants to wait until he is before getting married since his last marriage ended up with them being scammed out of over 100 000 dollars for a house and a bunch of other stuff. I'm just sad I have to wait because I don't know how long it will be until he is where he wants to be (making more money and finished school)