Ground rules would then need to come from b/f - will he be a MAN for his one and only?

And if you marry - you are right "to put up with his family for the rest of my life"

If he loves you and marries you where will this all go if he doesn't stand up?

By the way that is what we men are suppose to do... listen until 3 a.m. or what ever a.m. (my not so humble opinion)