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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
He said he feels it is his fault because he does have looser boundaries than other therapists and perhaps that is the reason I got so attached. He said it is his style and he is not going to change how he conducts his therapy with me.
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Overall sounds like it went quite well. Glad you are feeling better about it.
What you wrote above about looser boundaries… wow this hits home. The T that I became overwhelmingly attached to also admitted to this, and it seems likely that this was big part of what caused my feelings for her to erupt into the stratosphere. It felt at times like I was the special client and that we were relating on a much more personal level, bordering on flirtation, because of the loose boundaries.
This was her style, but it also seemed that she relaxed the boundaries even more for me. In the end, this was (in part) what made the whole thing implode. Termination followed, and then a major spiral for me.
So i am now very wary of loose boundaries…
But if he admitted fault, that is a good sign.