Oh my goodness, I am so, so sorry. You poor wee thing

I do understand. I blithely booked a shiatsu session which was a total distressing nightmare - I thought it would be wonderful and it was horrendous, because of where he touched, and the kind of touch used. My body was having all kinds of horrified fear reactions and I was sniggering and feeling mortified because I was also becoming aroused in a really, really, bad way that made me panic.

I had a smear test last week which was pretty hard. The nurse was lovely in a way, but just the way she was talking to me didn't help - telling me to relax (erm hello if it was that simple I would!) and saying in a slightly accusatory way that she could not tell I have vaginismus from looking at my face, as if to say I should have told her beforehand, but I hadn't wanted to because I thought I might be ok..

Procedures/ treatments can be a minefield.