i guess my parents have it good compared to you. they had 11 kids, only 1 of them refuses to distance themselves. they hve 10 grandchildren. my mom is bedridden for the past month because she broke her arm and leg on the ice. my dad has to get his leggs broken to straighten them out, because of arthritis. my brothers take care of them, and my aunt who is a nurse is taking care of my mom. i even went there a few times, i don't live very close to them, but i wish i did. i really don't understand why people don't want to take care of their aging parents, if it were up to me i'd be with them every day. i hope your children see the light and come to your aid, i will pray they do.