Hi,

So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and over the course of our relationship, there have been stretches of time where he has exhibited what I understand to be common symptoms of depression. He has acknowledged himself that he does often suffer from depression, but has never been to a doctor about it. I know it runs in his family as well.

We lived together for three years, but now are living in separate states due to work. It was easier for me to be there for him and help him with his depression when we lived together, but I don't know what to do for him now. He recently lost his job and has become very distant, spending most of his time playing video games and drinking heavily. He rarely replies when I try to contact him, and when he does, I feel as though I make him feel worse when trying to cheer him up. He is a very proud person, and I don't know how to convince him to seek help, or how to comfort him myself.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!