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Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2
How do you do it. Bam. There you are. Another alter did something, now you are up front and how do you explain it? Do you say "hey, it was the other one?"
Or, "oh, uh, I wasn't feeling myself"
I go through this everyday! Especially with my spouse! Ugh! My spouse already thinks I'm fruit loops so it's not that big a deal. But with the rest of the locals, how do you explain the intricacies of the previous tenants? The choice in clothing, the mannerisms, the "strange" behavior?
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with me it was a situation of no explanation needed. you see I didnt just suddenly become DID as an adult. I had DID since very young before I was even 5yrs old. what that means is everything that happens because of DID had been happening since I was that young child. it was just my normal. at first after diagnosis I was constantly worrying about explaining and making excuses but then my therapist asked me to watch normal people do they go around making excuses and explanations for things that are their normal..no they just are who they are when they are. as human beings with a thinking brain human beings normally do make have times when they have problems, dont always remember every second every detail and do make mistakes. and they dont always go around saying Im sorry for my strange behavior when what they did was just their normal way of being.
example my co worker always, always, eats her lettuce first then tomatoes. to me thats strange behavior because I stab right in with a fork and eat what ever comes up. but thats just how she is. just because she doesnt act the way I think she should does that mean she needs to make excuses no, thats just her normal.
alters taking control and my not remembering what went on was just my normal all the way until I was integrated. so I never thought about making excuses for what was my normal just like my co worker doesnt make excuses for the way she eats.