I have this problem in therapy when I'm feeling some closeness to T. T says I pull a blank and don't know what to say, because in early childhood there was no intimacy. I don't know what that is, so there are no memories or experience to draw on, and no words in my vocabulary. So, T explained that one purpose of therapy is to provide me with that closeness and affection to fill in the blank spaces in my mind and to integrate a balanced emotional system inside. It won't make me a dependent wimp but instead will grow strength and maturity in my self.