hi cmccal
i know you want to help him get better and cheer him up but that is hard for a depressed person to deal with coming from personal experience. i dont choose to be depressed and if i could be happy i would definitely choose that instead and it makes me feel bad that i cant be happy when you are trying so hard to make me happy. it makes me feel guilty that i cant please you and i feel like i am dissappointing you. and that makes me more depressed. i really just need someone to listen and understand where i am at. i know that that is hard for you because it hurts you to see me suffer.

encouraging him to get help is a good thing to do. meds changed my world. go to nami.org and see if there is a local affiliate near you and you can get some support on how to help him.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome.