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Originally Posted by CANDC
I am sorry to hear you feel frustrated by your current situation.
For me sex is not as important as intimacy. When somebody has yelled at me there is part of me that feels abused. It is almost impossible to be spontaneous and freely express sexuality when one is around someone who may have abused me, even mentally or emotionally in the past. Maybe there is a way around that with therapy.
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Thanks for your post. The problem isn't that the buildup is slow or that my husband is impatient, it's that there is NO build up for me. I can't even get there. He doesn't push it because it's been years of this BS and he's not sure what to do either. We do have a close relationship now, but there's still some kind of block on my side that I can't figure out.